2nd Sunday after Epiphany
January 19, 2025
Trinity Episcopal Church, Milford, MA
1 On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. 2 Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. 3 When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” 4 And Jesus said to her, “Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.” 5 His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.” 6 Now standing there were six stone water jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. 7 Jesus said to them, “Fill the jars with water.” And they filled them up to the brim. 8 He said to them, “Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.” So they took it. 9 When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom 10 and said to him, “Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.” 11 Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him. – John 2:1-11
I know it’s a cold winter weekend, but my mind is on vacation. I’ve been starting to plan a family trip for April school vacation week. Since my father’s death several years ago, my mom has joined my husband and daughter and I for some kind of trip together every year. It’s a wonderful time together, we share the costs, rent a place where we can cook our own food, and visit some interesting destination near or far where all of us can enjoy something fun. I look forward to it every year.
But…if you’ve ever traveled with family, you probably know that no matter how wonderful and how much we look forward to the time, there are inevitably moments of conflict. Whether it’s with a spouse, a child, a parent, a friend – it’s rare that I’ve taken a trip without at least one moment of conflict. Too hungry and irritable about where we’ll eat dinner, judgy about how someone else is packed in a tightly shared space, introverts over-stimulated and extroverts longing for more engagement, or just general bickering when sharing close quarters and there’s lots of togetherness. I’ve noticed that even though my mom and I have a fantastic relationship, talk regularly, and see each other often despite living several hours drive apart, when she’s with us on vacation there are moments where I suddenly revert to being a rebellious 18 year old wanting to make my own way, thank you very much.
So I’m feeling sympathetic to Jesus and to his poor mother as they attend the wedding of some dear family friend at Cana. No doubt Jesus is looking to be there on his own terms as a fully grown adult, despite what must be plenty of connections to people who still see him as the precocious 12-year-old boy who ran around playing among them. They are well into the multi-day celebration when his mother comes running up to him, “Do something! They are out of wine!”
This would be considered a bit of a crisis at many a celebration – not enough of whatever the guests need. But there was a particular culture of hospitality that would bring shame on the couple and the family and even perhaps foreshadow bad luck for the marriage ahead. Mary, of course, knows her son and knows something about the divine presence in, with, and under his humanity. Even so, it is a little unclear the way John relates the story to us just what it is Mary expects Jesus to do.
Besides, Jesus is not ready. Whatever his reasons in the moment, Jesus is suddenly again the rebellious teenager again – “Ugh. Moooommm…. What is that to me and to you?!” And Mary, squelching the anger at his response and channeling her mom energy, turns to the servants and tells them “Do what he tells you.” Jesus, now committed by his mother, has no choice but to come up with a plan on the fly. I imagine with a big sigh, he commands the servants to fill the water jugs. And so happened the first of his signs, done at Cana in Galilee, revealing his glory, and instilling belief in those who witnessed it.
I hope I am not offending anyone’s piety by imagining the scene this way. Please know that I do so with a deep reverence for the full humanity of Jesus as much as the full divinity of Jesus. And because it just feels so deeply relatable to be trapped suddenly back in a pattern with our families that we thought we’d long overcome.
This is what we do, right? We suddenly let out on the ones closest to us the burdens we carry of stress at work or at school, our anxiety about health, our grief about what has been lost, our fears about the future. All of that weighs on us, and sometimes it’s the ones we love the most that get the brunt of our frustration. Perhaps because of that deep love we are suddenly confronted with something in ourselves that we don’t actually want to see. So we blame, lash out, or shut down, we return to old patterns where we push each other’s buttons. We don’t mean to, we don’t – hopefully – set out to hurt anyone. But we do. We’re human. And in this little exchange between Jesus and his mother we see a bit of their closeness of relationship and their humanity.
One of my ongoing challenges as a person of faith is to actually lean in to God with that same kind of deep and abiding trust. To actually fully trust God to be in charge, fully trust God to lead me out of tough spots. That’s a trust that Mary models in this moment. Not in a pious, well-worded prayer or in a well-thought out process of partnering with God in the work of ministry. Just in everyday relationship, one so close she can call him out to be fully himself, close enough that he can bristle a bit about the well-work pattern, close enough that she can keep rolling even when he is brusque in return.
We long for that kind of closeness with God. And perhaps some of us some of the time find that kind of closeness. The kind of closeness with which we can bring our deepest yearnings, fears, hopes, and also just the ordinary stuff of our days. And what a gift that is in those moments to be in relationship with a God of such abundance, a God who transforms the ordinary into the extraordinary, who joins us in our celebrations, who desires for us abundance and joy.
But there are times, sometimes much of our lives even as people of faith, when we fail to lean fully into that level of trust. Maybe you find yourself in one of those times now. We are in a time when the world is in turmoil – perhaps you know people devastated by the wildfires in LA, perhaps you know people who have ties to the devastating violence in Israel and Gaza or to violence that happens in cities and towns closer to home. Maybe you are living your own grief at the death of a loved one or at illness and aging that strips away parts of ourselves, or things are clouded by anxiety or depression. Maybe you are simply exhausted from trying to hold things together. And all of us are in a time when churches as institutions are struggling to make ends meet and the future of our ministries requires a different kind of investment than we know what to do with.
While these difficult challenges will sometimes bring us to deeper faith, often they leave us feeling the weight of scarcity, of not enough. The wine has run out. What will we do?
Here, I think, is of the deeply beautiful things about this story: very few people know what happened. The servants, Mary, Jesus, perhaps a few of his brand-new disciples. But nowhere does it indicate that anyone else is in on the mysterious sign. The lowly ones – they are invited to see. But everyone – everyone! – present at the party gets to experience God’s abundance. They aren’t all aware. Many of them will miss, at least for now, the deeper things this sign points to about Jesus and the presence of God in their lives. But they experience the abundance all the same.
So come again to the table of mercy. Experience today God’s abundance poured out for you – the body of Christ the bread of heaven, the blood of Christ the cup of salvation. Bring your deep faith and your wildest doubts. Bring your passionate energy for your faith and your tired and weary souls burdened by sorting out life and ministry. Bring it all to this table, and wherever you are, whoever you are, experience the abundance of God.
It is no magical solution to all your problems. While it may draw you closer into that deep and abiding relationship with Jesus, that also will not magically solve all your problems. But it will call you into God’s abundant life where God comes again and again to be close with you, to be in relationship with you, to love you into new life.
-Pastor Steven Wilco