7th Sunday after Pentecost
July 28, 2019
1Jesus was praying in a certain place, and after he had finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.” 2Jesus said to them, “When you pray, say:
Father, hallowed be your name.
Let your dominion come.
3Give us each day our daily bread.
4And forgive us our sins,
for we ourselves forgive everyone indebted to us.
And do not bring us to the time of trial.”
5And Jesus said to them, “Suppose one of you has a friend, and you go to that friend at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; 6for a friend of mine has arrived, and I have nothing to set out.’ 7And the friend answers from within, ‘Do not bother me; the door has already been locked, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot get up and give you anything.’ 8I tell you, even though the friend will not get up and provide anything because of the friendship, at least because of the neighbor’s persistence the friend will get up and provide whatever is needed.
9“So I say to you, Ask, and it will be given you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you. 10For everyone who asks receives, and everyone who searches finds, and for everyone who knocks, the door will be opened. 11Is there anyone among you who, if your child asks for a fish, will give a snake instead of a fish? 12Or if the child asks for an egg, will give a scorpion? 13If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask!” – Luke 11:1-13
“Teach us to pray.” A simple request from Jesus’ disciples. John taught his disciples, now teach us. Tell us what to do. Our #2 pencils are sharpened, we have extra paper at the ready. What’s step 1?
In one sense Jesus gives them what they are looking for. A script that prays a mostly timeless and expansive prayer. One that is both deeply intimate and yet includes all of creation in its scope. Whether Jesus intended it to become the kind of shared, global, ecumenical prayer that it quickly became or not, it was a pretty good start to a lesson on prayer. Pray as a child to a loving parent. Pray for God’s will, God’s heaven, God’s reign to become real in us and on earth. Today’s needs met today and tomorrow’s not worried about until then. Forgiveness that is reciprocal and live-giving for everyone. Power to live in a complex world full of forces beyond our understanding. It’s sometimes hard to imagine a better prayer. Sometimes it’s the solace of repeating the familiar that draws me in to God. Sometimes a line I’ve said 10,000 times will startle me with new insight. Jesus has more than answered the question.
But then Jesus goes on. Prayer is like an unprepared and slightly obnoxious friend who comes pounding on your door in the middle of the night waking up your whole family for a few loaves of bread to feed a guest arrived in the middle of the night. Pounding, pounding, pounding until at last you get up and get the bread just to stop the pounding and shouting. This is not neat and simple prayer. This is prayer that is messy and loud, prayer an inopportune times, prayer that wakes up the neighbors. It’s prayer that leaves us a little unsettled, like we’ve been woken from sleep by the pounding, because we aren’t quite sure what it’s like. Jesus gave us a rich, deep prayer we can repeat for a lifetime and still find new meaning. And Jesus gave us an image of frantic pounding.
Just this tiny glimpse at the breadth of prayer has invited me to wonder this week what images for prayer we operate under today. What prayer would you recite or what story would you tell to describe what prayer is like with God?
Sometimes I wonder if we pray like two people who just met at a dinner party, strangers seated next to each other, struggling to find common ground to speak about. The conversation is interesting at moments, but often formulaic. What do you do for work? Where are you from? Oh, how’s the weather there? How’s the sports team from there doing? We ask and answer these questions, sometimes out of genuine interest in relationship, sometimes out of obligation to talk to someone right in front of us. Best case scenario it evolves into something more. Worst case scenario there is a misunderstanding and lingering feelings of ill-will. Or maybe sometimes it’s that way but between two people who used to have a connection, used to share so much in common, but who are reconnecting after an absence only to find paths that have diverged too drastically and the rekindling of friendship too difficult. I know we sometimes pray like this, saying the words because we know we are supposed to say them, sometimes hoping they will become more and other times hoping it will just keep us occupied in an awkward moment.
But what if prayer is also sometimes like the person you just met whose life is radically different yet seemingly so perfectly intersecting with your own that the conversation grows until hours have passed in deep back and forth listening. Or the long-ago friend that you see again and discover that the years apart and the diverging paths have only made the conversation richer. Time disappears. Minds, voices, bodies relax into an easy rhythm of sharing and listening. Silence is not awkward but full of meaning and connection. The conversation varies from calm and informative to wildly exciting to the sharing of deep sadness. And all of it feels right. What if conversation with God was like that?
Sometimes I wonder if we pray like a couple who has lost the spark in their relationship. The texts that go back and forth are about what groceries need to be picked up, reminders about the day’s schedule, questions about the bills that need to be paid. It fills the pantry, gets the house cleaned, and life functions on the proscribed schedule. There is love and affection, gratitude and kindness, but the communication is often a matter of what is functional. It’s pleasant, comfortable, even good. I know we sometimes pray like that – we ask for what is needed, maybe we even talk a little about our lives, we listen respectfully, but the spark of energy and excitement is rarely felt.
But what if prayer is also sometimes like a couple in the throes of romantic passion? Moments where just a look or a word can stir up intense feelings of connection and longing. People who throw off obligation to be with one another. People who put everything else on hold, who are consumed in heart, mind, soul, and body, who pull the other close, who open up their deepest selves. What if God’s invitation to prayer was at least some of the time to enter that kind of deep, romantic, even erotic relationship with God?
Sometimes I wonder if we pray like the tired parent and worn-out child at the grocery store checkout line. Some of us have been that parent, many of us if we remember back have been that child. It is almost nap time. The errands today have been longer than expected. No one is feeling at their best. The child asks again and again for the candy just within their grasp. Maybe the parent declines for the umpteenth time. And maybe the child feels sad and defeated, or throws a fit of anger, or takes what is wanted, or just sighs and moves on. Or the parent gives in out of pity, exhaustion, defeat, or out of just wanting finally to be able to say “yes” to something for the child they love. And the child is excited or confused or first thrilled then ultimately disappointed that what was desired did not fulfill in any lasting way. I know we sometimes pray like this. We ask, maybe even bargain, for what we want. Maybe we expect a “yes” or maybe we just feel compelled to ask again even if we only expect to hear “no” or “not right now.” Maybe we know it’s something that won’t fulfill us, but we still in our hearts hope it will. Maybe we are simply not yet able to understand why we hear “no.” Maybe we get what we ask for but have no sense in the moment of the love behind what is given. But the feeling is overwhelmingly of the tiredness felt all around.
But what if prayer is also sometimes like the parent who plans for weeks to surprise a child with a day full of interactive and fulfilling activities. When the child wakes up, an unexpected note leads her to the kitchen where she gets to help make chocolate chip pancakes. She discovers a new book to be read together and an adventure to a favorite museum awaits for parent and child. A carefree romp in the sprinkler on a hot summer afternoon. At some point the child sneaks off to create a song or dance or work of art to honor the day or honor the parent, and the parent takes delight both in sneaking a glance at the creative process and the final product, whatever it is. A simultaneously indulgent and nutritious dinner is served and enjoyed. A long snuggle together as the day’s memories of joy and love sink deep before finding rest for the night. There has been asking and receiving in both directions, but the relationship has been renewed instead of depleted. What if prayer were like that?
What if we are the sleeping ones, stuck sometimes in prayer with God that has lost its energy and joy, lost its playfulness and romance, its creative and adventurous expression. What if God is the friend pounding on the door, rousing us from tired prayer, calling us to welcome the guest of grace, calling us to unexpected moments of encounter with the holy?
Maybe your prayer is rich and full already. And maybe today or some days it isn’t. But here in a moment, at the response of God’s knocking, we will bring out the bread we have to share. And here at this table God breaks into our sometimes sleepy spirits and the midnight guest of grace who arrived already while we were asleep, invites us to eat of the bread we have offered. And there, in the joy-filled feast, God enters us in body and blood, bread and wine. And that connection is rekindled. The possibility of joy and playfulness, romance and creativity is sparked again. And God prays into us a persistent and never-dying love that is forever and ever. Amen.
Pastor Steven Wilco
